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\u00cen natura rela\u021biei exist\u0103 ceea ce se nume\u0219te: capacitatea de a solu\u021biona problemele, sau \u00een limbajul nostru, \u201eiscusin\u021b\u0103 nativ\u0103\u201d. Mul\u021bi o \u00eenva\u021b\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 pu\u021bini o de\u021bin \u00een caracterul lor. Cei care o \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 dezvolt\u0103 \u0219i exagerarea ei, \u00een care \u201epot rezolva toate probleme altora\u201d \u0219i nu mai las\u0103 pe nimeni apropiat s\u0103 se descurce prin a c\u0103uta solu\u021bii.<\/p>\n

\u00cen opinia psihologului Alexandru Ple\u0219ea, cunoscut opiniei publice drept Antrenorul Min\u0163ii, ace\u0219tia devin un fel de \u201eerou\u201d sau salvator pentru cei de l\u00e2ng\u0103 el. Aceast\u0103 tipologie, diametral opus\u0103 cu naturalul de a ajuta, doar atunci c\u00e2nd ajutorul este cerut, duce la o caracteristic\u0103 nou\u0103, aceea de a opri pe cei apropia\u021bi s\u0103 se descurce prin \u201eiscusin\u021ba lor nativ\u0103\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201eCu toate c\u0103, la prima vedere, aceast\u0103 tipologie de \u201com s\u0103ritor\u201d \u0219i \u201ciscusit la toate\u201d este de apreciat, chiar invidiat pe alocuri, el nu face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 opreasc\u0103, prin func\u021bia care se nume\u0219te \u201cignoran\u021b\u0103\u201d pe cei apropia\u021bi lui s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 propriile lor solu\u021bii, adic\u0103 de \u201ca-\u0219i pune gr\u0103simea din cap, sau creierul, la treab\u0103\u201d. Programul social, numit \u201caltruism\u201d, educat din toate familiile care ne-au oferit suport emo\u021bional de mici, s-a instalat cu repeziciunea unui fulger, prin \u00eensu\u0219i exemplul altora \u00een fa\u021ba noastr\u0103. <\/em><\/p>\n

Nu \u0219tim s\u0103 spunem NU unui apropiat, pentru c\u0103 apare teama de a fi respins de acesta pe viitor. Aceast\u0103 incapacitate de a \u201ca refuza\u201d devine un bagaj greu de dus la drum lung. Un astfel de om devine sclavul propriilor lui convingeri \u0219i valori implementate \u00een el, f\u0103r\u0103 ca el s\u0103 \u0219tie c\u0103 \u00eei sunt oferite ca program social, \u0219i av\u00e2nd cu deplin\u0103 \u0219i de ne\u00een\u021beles convingere, c\u0103 asta e natura lui. Un astfel de om este greu de schimbat \u0219i de pus \u00een pozi\u021bii de conducere sau de a deveni un lider\u201d<\/em>, explic\u0103 psihologul Alexandru Ple\u0219ea.<\/p>\n

Ajut\u00e2ndu-i prea mult pe al\u021bii, nu mai avem timp s\u0103 ne ajut\u0103m pe noi<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t, specialistul este de p\u0103rere c\u0103 aceast\u0103 tipologie este ghidat\u0103 de societate s\u0103 ajute at\u00e2t c\u00e2t \u00ee\u0219i \u00eentinde plapuma \u0219i \u00een general, s\u0103-\u0219i vad\u0103 de treburile altora din jurul lui, \u0219i mai pu\u021bin de ale lui.<\/p>\n

\u201eC\u00e2\u021bi oameni oare nu am v\u0103zut, care obosesc, se spetesc, se consum\u0103 pentru to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi din jurul lor, doar din cauza programului social repetat, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se ocupe cu adev\u0103rat, con\u0219tient \u0219i s\u00e2rguincios de propria condi\u021bie. Oare un astfel de om nu b\u0103nuie\u0219te c\u0103 ajut\u00e2ndu-i constant pe al\u021bii, nu mai are timp pentru el \u00eensu\u0219i? Vindecarea unui astfel de comportament este dezv\u0103\u021barea programului social repetat, numit \u201caltruism\u201d \u0219i incorporarea disponibilit\u0103\u021bii \u00een comportament pentru acolo unde ar fi nevoie de el. <\/em><\/p>\n

Din nefericire, din cercet\u0103rile mele, \u201caltruismul\u201d programat nu poate fi dezv\u0103\u021bat, mai ales de cei trecu\u021bi de 45 de ani. Repeti\u021bia acestuia a fost de prea multe ori \u0219i sistemul nervos este dator pe via\u021b\u0103 repeti\u021biei. Un astfel de om, nici dac\u0103 ar \u0219ti c\u0103 opre\u0219te pe altul s\u0103 creeze ceva, sau nu las\u0103 pe altul s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 propria solu\u021bie, tot nu s-ar putea opri din altruism \u0219i ar face tot ce poate, pentru a nu-l l\u0103sa pe cel din fa\u021ba lui s\u0103 creeze ceva. \u00cen\u021belegerea la \u201cde ce ajut\u201d poate fi o solu\u021bie. Poate cea mai bun\u0103. Ea va aduce un r\u0103spuns intern, de la care poate pleca fiecare \u00een cum \u0219i c\u00e2nd ofer\u0103 ajutor cuiva\u201d<\/em>, conchide psihologul Alexandru Ple\u0219ea.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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